Huge hug to all. :-D 

There are enough good people in the world to make a difference.

And, sometimes it is to late for many.  

As we are upon the Christmas season,

Let us not forget the horrors of the past, present.  Let us not see the repeats of these in the future....  Let us remember "their" strength and take it with us the best we can.  As we will be better people! Because we in this family and our own, have hearts.. 

Those that suffered and are suffering in wars now, they have/had our medical problems and  cancer, every pain that we feel? They too are/were dealing with and they just want a slice of bread and a cup of water. 

So, let us give Joy, that we have each other, our families, and the known love of our past and present.  

Some of us have pasts that we don't want to go to (I am one) But, as John said, There and plenty of people to make a difference.. and that is a good thing.. 

Thank You, I am blessed.......

Hello Zivtusk,

Thanks so much for sharing what should NEVER be forgotten.

Happy Hanukkah to you and yours.

Good Morning All

Marcie I was just talking telling a little of my story . Its good to have friends who understand . I hope the diet Doc gets you straight with the weight gain . Marcie you are right we all have something in our past we don't want to look back on and like John said looking back just messes with yer head and makes yer neck sore ! Haha how true though .

John I'll bet that was a surprise yer first time not knowing much about it all . I can see where ye could get a little scundered too eh Lad ! But I'll bet you were a fast learner !!

Zvitusk now I understand the fold up and open up . I am sorry to hear about your folks going threw such a horrible experience . That was a disgraceful time in history I will never understand how anybody could be so cruel . I can't even imagine how that would be . Fortunately for your Mom and Dad were able to open up and had you and your 2 brothers to talk to . That was a long time to fold up and carry such a memory .

YEs, the weak minded or scared humans can be control from the beginning of time=Bible.  But the sick ones don't learn.. Life is a survival course in many ways.. Watching/learning of the "ants" is an example.. Odd but true.. Ants have Army's,  different sections of planned structures of survival..... talk about a family huh?   :-(.. Just an example of Gods creations in many forms of life.. 

My growing up years, were not great, abuse - and very young age of full family responsibilities.. as of age 11. My mom was a wonderful woman.. I was the one she could come to.. BUT!!  helped her in every way I could and more.. I had her love and was shown respect from her that made me what I am today--And I thank her always.  She died age 58. My dad, drank, I was beaten always for no reason.. he had much anger--(3 daughters and I am the oldest-I got the beatings) -I was treated as a boy child.  Told that I am stupid, ugly, and when I went off for a test at school, he told me "hey stupid, go flunk the test" and I did..  The words hurt the worst.. *************

At the age of 60 I finally understood he had the anger issues, that lead to other embarrassing objects in my life with him.. When I go to their grave, I talk to mom, but dad? I do try and just say "I  understand now.."  But cant forgive.. I feel this was his problem, not mine.. so I explored me, myself and I.. I am not stupid, not ugly, but most of all I am BEAUTIFUL within  my heart.. Because of the above, my heart is bigger than most.. I am a self made woman and a strong woman, I hardly ever cry.. He  made me that way..  But when I do cry? There is a reason trust me!!  So, my neck does not turn easily.. :-) I found humor is the best way to live life and its objects that are thrown to me.  SO, yes, there is a "fold up" because I cant and couldn't do anything about this at a young age--but I knew that there would be a better life for  me later.. And I have had that life the last 50 years.  I met Tom.  HE is a gentleman, smart, loving, and I always come first in his life.. Which I never experenced before.. Talk about being in an ahhhhhhhhhhhh.  

So, when I became an ostomate, I found my younger years of strength and became dependant on ME.. Then I let Tom take over of caring for me.. Within that alone, I taught myself more and my family more of survival.. Just got to take the bull by the horns and don't let go!!

There are very stupid people out there that are so called educated.  One example, 6 months ago, a friend called and said she would pick me up and we will go to lunch-- Well, here comes the biggie!! Told me I had to wear a diaper if I was to ride in her car!!!!!!!!   Needless to say I did not go to lunch with her, and I don't want anything to so with her..  This is a 6 year collage professional.... Once again, I am treated as an object of insults and abuse.. So, I shy away from people until I know that they Understand.. No Pity!! No insults!! Been there done that.. I cannot change their ways of minds.. I feel they ARE the unfortuante ones not me.. 

I am strong, beautiful within, and blessed to have such a wonderful life.. and Robert, that is why I am Santa.. :-) I just have an extra bag to carry.......... and its all mine!!  hahaha.. 

Robert, I hope also the "diet" Dr. can help me.. She said that she could.. I have directed her to this blog.. Hopefully she will get a better understanding of IBS, UC, different types of surgeries, medications some take,, etc...  As this is her field of upper GI.."diets" Told her to go  directly to Eric. etc. Join us, talk with Eric and us.. Close the book, and really see who we are!! I am only one person, and can only speak for myself.. I have 2 different issues that linger on.. Others don't. But I am sure that some are out there are in my shoes also-hopefully not--but if so, I can through this-can help them.. 

I want all Ostomates to get well, and their new normal be healthy!! Most are, For me and some, we struggle a bit------- But there is hope!!! Got to be strong and not get flopped into the Dr. exchanges...... Gets to be old after awhile......  So I speak up now--I interviewed this Dr. over the phone 2 times... I like her style--There is a hug in her voice..  I need that.  May have pay out of pocket..... which remindes me-got to call insurance... another go around..

Considering that tonight starts the festival of lights, it was explained to me that when we get knocked down, we don't respond with fisticuffs. We respond by making light. 

My parents were enslaved . Their revenge was to create a family of good people, A light of civilized behavior. 

My parents left a legacy of examples of how to live in this world of ours.

Yea, manure happens, but you clean up and move forward. You create light. 

We have been doing this for 2,000 years,  and the world is a better place for it.

Y'all have a nice holiday season. Be careful, be happy, do good. 

Hi Zvitusk, They Left a good Legacy!! Chag Sameach to all your family. I hope I have wrote this correct.

I think as we enter the holidays, our pasts come by......... I mean the rough ones.. Not the norm. This brings us to our thanks of lessons, Even tho some are hard, we r left with some joy.. OR we will find it.. My dad, would throw the Christmas tree out the big front window on many eve's of Christmas I was 10, 11,12 years old.. When I as 17 he left with a gun to shoot himself on Christmas day. He made every holiday a horror in waiting...... So, you see all, I am thankful that is all over.... I was 35 when he passed.... I made sure that my holidays at my home festive.. and yes he made his remarks..

You can see how happy that I am this year, after 3 years or getting my health back-that I am a mom again.. I am an Ostomate--I am stronger than ever!!! Amen to that and Joy among my family.......... Life gets better........ Because we learn to cope.. Ostomy = health and this = joy.

Marcie you are a strong Woman you have done a great job with your life and family !

Merry Christmas

Zvitusk I second what John said . Despite what your parents endured they did an excellent job and left a legacy to be proud of !

Thank You--But I know nothing else but survival and embarrasments.. I found the honor of life, and the humor to make it work.. The horror no more - that I can see coming.. :-) !! Just turn the page and go forward.  Don't like the book? Toss it.. Right??????

Merry Christmas to you too Robert.. hugs!! 

My "Z" I agree with Robert  Your a fine person..

And great help for us as Ostomy dealings.. Enjoy your  holidays.. Hugs..