Oh dear..  I'm so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to deeply.  Its so difficult when a treasured pet becomes so ill.  I know how sick I was from my thyroid & I'm not sure I'd want that for a pet especially if chances are slim for recovery.  The timing is rarely great in these matters & I do hope something can be done.

I'm sure you've considered the extra stress your being away & Rufus under the care of a coworker may have on him. How does he do in the care of others when your away?   Theres so much to consider esp. if the Pet is a fighter & it seems like your Rufus really is. I hope the Vet can shed some light on his situation for you. Do let us know how things go with him. All the best to Rufus & to you too.

I'm so sorry to hear about your boy, Rufus.

I think that if your colleague can offer a loving environment for him while you are away from home, then it sounds like a good option.

See what your vet thinks before making any decisions. Hugs to you and your sweet boy.

Ah now that’s sad, You’re fellow Ostopals have given you good advice.    Best wishes to you and your fur baby.🙏🙏

Oh, I am sorry. Poor little Rufus. He might take comfort if you give him an old shirt of yours to cuddle with. It seemed to help my little cat when her kidneys were failing.

Thinking of you.

Hi guys, Thank you so much for all your kind words. Rufus crossed the rainbow bridge on Friday, while my coworker was on her way to take him to her vet. 

He had a good time at her house, liked to spend time with her daughters. So I take comfort in knowing his last days were nice for him, with lots of attention.

I came home today (Saturday) and my other boy Mickey is here and happy I'm back. Still, the house feels oddly empty without Rufus....

@cat-momma ... Ohhh...  I'm so sorry to hear this. I was really hoping if it had to be that you could have been there with him. I'm sure it helps knowing he was well cared for while you were away, yes, take comfort in that for sure.  I have no doubt Mickey will enjoy your resting at home & claim lots of extra snuggles as he too adjusts to his missing buddy. 

My heart goes out to you as you too adjust. Its never easy to loose a loved furry baby.  ❤️

@cat-momma I am so sorry to hear about your Rufus. Big hugs to you! 
fid you get your surgery? I think I remember the 12th?

I'm terribly sorry for your loss @cat-momma. We lost our eldest cat a year and a week ago, and the house still feels empty without her, even with four more always around to keep us company.

But I hope it helps to know that Rufus had a great life filled with love.

Thank you for your support guys! I miss him, but he was very sick and I take comfort in knowing he had a good couple of last days and didn't seem to have suffered. I can pick up his ashes tomorrow.

@Chelly Yes, my surgery was on the 12th and I came home on the 15th. I have a Barbie butt now, because there was not enough blood supply to the rectal stump. 

Tilly is a monster, she produces like crazy 🤣. Well behaved tho, never a problem while I change my bag (yet).

So sorry for your loss.  

Hugs and hope your recovery goes well.

cygo

@cat-momma I’m glad you are getting his ashes. Again, so sorry for your loss. 
my stoma can be a monster at times too! Tonight especially. I had chocolate chip cookies and just emptied 4 times in 20 mins.

im glad you haven’t experienced output while changing yet. It can be quite aggravating. Mine seems to want to produce at the time I’m changing a lot of times. I’ve gotten away from showering without the bag on due to all of that and I’m now changing after the shower. It’s made life a bit easier. As long as I have the next bag ready to slap on quickly. I may still shower without it once in a while but it’s going to have to be when I have enough time in case things should happen. I usually take a plastic throw away cup in there with me just in case. 

sorry for your loss

@cat-momma So sorry to hear about the loss of Rufus. Losing a pet is just devastating; they really are family members. Glad to hear that your surgery went well and that you’re back home recuperating. That Barbie butt will be tender for awhile - I didn’t find doughnut cushions very comfortable, but I did like the “TushCush” which has a keyhole cutout at the back. It provides lots of support, but nothing to irritate the incision. There are lots of cushions like it on the market; that just happened to be the one that I found at the time.

Laurie

Again, thanks for all your support, it's heart warming! I will be scattering his ashes in my front garden this afternoon. That was where he spent most of his time, usually underneath my car. Hidden from view, observing everyting around him.

I dearly miss him, but I am at peace, knowing he didn't suffer much. He ate and drank right up to his passing, which is a sign to me that he was not in a lot of pain.

Last Thursday I had to put down my best friend of 14 years. I just can't wrap my head around what happened. Was I too caught up in my own healing and the aftermath of Rufus' death, that I didn't see that Mickey too, was sick?

It seems to have happened so quickly. He lost a lot of weight in a short time, took him to the vet three times last week and that last time, the vet basically told me any further treatment would be useless. It had been heartbreaking watching him want to drink, but for some reason not being able to. So there was only one decision I could make.

I am so, so sad right now. Both my boys are gone, so quickly one after the other. I miss them so....

@cat-momma I'm so sorry to hear that ☹ You've done the best you could for your boys, and I can only imagine the pain you are in right now.

Take time for yourself and grieve.

@cat-momma oh, this is just too much to bear! I am so sorry that you’ve lost both cats, and so close to each other. I hope you can find some consolation in knowing that you’ve given them a terrific home, and that they had a good life with you. So, so sorry you’re going through this.

Laurie

@cat-momma ... Oh my gosh Laurie, your heart is breaking & aching all in one shot.  I'm so sorry your going through all you've been thru with your kitties. I know how hard it is. I lost both my little dogs within 3 months & my hubby too.  Zena first, then Doug, then Zenas puppy, Trooper.  I cried like a baby having to say goodbye. To all three of them, but, my hubby was far worse ofcourse, I missed the dogs that skept at my feet so much late at night.  All I'd have to do was put my hand open by my side & Zena would put her warm cheek & ear right in my hand.   

You go right ahead & let the tears roll. Other then.. my whole heart goes out to you! ❤️❤️ and if I could hug you I most certainly would. 

I still have Romeos ashes from 3 years ago  & can't decide where to scatter them. Your idea of the flower bed is lovely.  Maybe plant a special hardy plant for him too if you can.  Our fur babies are worthy of that.  Romeo loved sitting in the sun under the snowball tree. Maybe its time.... 

All the best as your heart heals ❣️

@cat-momma, I've been thinking about you, and hope that you're OK.

On Monday, we lost one of our sweet girls after 16 years. It's shattering, and I understand the pain you've been going through. Be well.