Sorry, that's the trouble with apartment life. Don't blame your stoma though, don't even tell her you have one or she'll be convinced it's you just because of it. Back when I lived in one, I got complaints from my cooking, as it always includes pungent ingredients like tons of garlic and chilies!

I never told anyone there that I have it but somehow I get the feeling she knows but just not saying anything. Anytime I come out my door she sprays Lysol.  She may have went through my garbage or opened one of my supply boxes. I noticed once one of them was partially opened. She’s a real witch! Claiming smells from my place are getting to hers. Not my problem! Then she needs to talk to her landlord because he rigged up a dryer in the bathroom above mine in her place and has the dryer venting through her bathroom fan. We have been going through absolute hell with her lately. She threatened to call police on me! For what? Living in my apartment? My husband is livid right now. One other tenant said the whole building is unsettled since she moved in. Things are really escalating between her and I. She has even gone as far as putting  some kind of granules where I walk outside and going up to the door and next to my car. Maybe laundry beads like those Downey things. Did not see her do it but I know it’s her. I’d love to catch her. I’m just waiting to see her or catch her because I will be putting out for harassment. 

I get what you’re saying about garlic. I have smelled my neighbors garlic before but not bathroom or other smells. It may even be the plumbing because recently they went in to snake the outside line to the building and we have been experiencing sewer smells from our  toilets. 
I posted this just wondering if other ostomates ever had an issue with neighbors in apartments. 

Sounds like a neighbor from hell! I'm sorry that you're having to go through that.

Since other tenants are also complaning about her behavior, it's clearly a “her problem” and not anyone else's. If it wasn't smells, it would be phantom noises or something else.

I've never lived in an apartment, but if it's an option to speak with the landlord about your concerns, that'd be the option I'd take. Or, wait for the landlord to come to you, if she does plan to complain to them about these mystery smells.

@veganostomy my husband did talk to her landlord as we have different landlords and my landlord talked to hers as well. So today I get home from work and my husband took a pizza box out to the dumpster to throw away and she was out there and out of no where she screams at him why are you looking at me that way? And he says I’m not even looking at you and she says I filed a police report on you. Landlord instructed us to call police. Police came talked to us and then ‘em went to talk with her. She told him my bathroom fan bothers her because it’s loud. Says we are smoking in the house but we are not. She smokes though. The officer says he can tell we do not smoke in our home. She told him she is afraid of men and has a bad past with men. So I’m assuming this is a mental health issue. Anytime she hears water running, sink, toilet flush, shower etc it sets her off. I did notice my bathroom fans set her off and me vacuuming as well. If I do any of those things you can hear her up there going crazy and screaming, you can hear her opening windows etc. when I shower I hear noises something like she’s jamming something down her bathtub pipes? When I walk to my other bathroom sink where I do my bag etc and I turn the sink on she goes to that area flipping out. It’s very uncomfortable. I feel she’s just evil and was snooping. Knows I have a bag somehow and it freaked her out. You know that kind of mentality. Its like a bully. I have a bag so spray Lysol in the area I walk when I come in. Put laundry beads by my car so that when I step out I’m stepping in them because I stink or whatever she’s doing. I really feel she knows somehow. It’s all very unsettling and exhausting living in my home this way. 

Chelly,

That is really weird. Especially since you were living there first!  Have you talked to your own landlord and let them know this lady’s crazy behavior, in case they get contacted by the police or her landlord?

I agree it sounds like she knows something. I find it hard to believe she is smelling anything. I can be changing my bag in the bathroom and Squeaky goes a little nuts and my husband doesn’t even smell it in the next room. 

As far as any noise, you have every right to live your life in your apartment without someone harassing you for running for water or vacuuming. It doesn’t sound like anything excessive. 

I’m sorry you have to deal with this. Apartment living can be tough. 

@chelly I mean, wow. It really does seem like a mental health problem from what you describe, and I don't think an apartment is an appropriate setting for her condition.

I would document these strange happenings (i.e. her screaming whenever you vacuum your own home...), just in case this escalates and either the police, courts, or these landlords get involved again.

Hopefully, she'll decide to move somewhere else soon.

@veganostomy you know, if she has a problem with whatever we are doing that was bothering her she could have came to me to tell me or go to her landlord to talk to mine. Yes it partially mental health but she does know what she’s doing as well as she said she was afraid of men but she has had men over to her home.
Yeah , the police did tell her that I can run my bathroom fan and that this is how apartment living is. I don’t mind her loud walking or her grandson running around up there as I can basically sleep through almost anything when I get home. I dont try to control thier showers or homes. We pay a lot of rent here and it’s not to her lol!!! 
I guess enough was enough. She threatened police twice so I called them out here. God only knows what she will make up and say I did. She says she’s putting me in jail lol!!!!!!!!!

@squeakyandliza I know it is really bizarre. Never even would have ever thought. Yes both landlords were contacted prior to this incident as there have been many. Our landlord is the one who told us to call and make a police report . We don’t seek her out, she seeks us out when these things occur and nobody is doing anything purposely to her. We will be minding our own business 

I know my husband rarely smells mine he says . Only if I forget deodorant or sometimes first thing in the morning. Unless she’s smelling the smells from my job on me when I get home but I can’t help that. I’m a caretaker and peoples diapers need changed, bags need emptied and changed and help with their daily hygiene and I’m one of those that does that. I’m careful with it. I go not wear work shoes home with this job. I have a junk pair of flip flops by my door do I can walk through my home without worry that anything gets in my home and I proceed to remove bag and get into the shower. I must take 45 min showers because I feel so gross. Then I spray it down with Tilex mold and mildew with bleach and let it sit while I go get my bag on and stuff. I’m a very clean human being. 
yes apartment living uggggh but everything was good before she moved in. There is like 5 others in this building and no one ever came to us or complained. 

@chelly your neighbour sounds quite paranoid. Just a suggestion, but it might be best to not engage with her at all unless she is being reasonable and respectful. If she is personality disordered, she might provoke a confrontation which could quickly escalate out of control. So best to keep things light, superficial and brief  - “Nice day”, “Have a good weekend “, “Sorry, I’ve got something in the oven, and I have to go”. And definitely involve the police and landlord if she becomes inappropriate. 

Laurie

@tigerlily yes I’m thinking paranoid too and she’s tripping about me for some odd reason. She started up a bit again today when i cleaned my bathroom. I had to turn on the fan I was using bleach. As I was cleaning that I heard the usual jamming something down her pipe upstairs lol! Before I started the bathroom I emptied out and flushed my toilet, turn the fan on and then proceeded to do a few things and took the garbage out. When returning from the garbage I heard a bunch of screaming and yelling coming from up there and freaking out. 
I don’t  know what the hell the problem is but I’m absolutely sick of it. I’m not going to feel sorry for her even if she is mentally Ill because she has her daughter there who could take her to get medicated. I honestly think someone’s nosseyness got them paranoid. I totally believe she went into one of my garbage bags out at the dumpster or opened one of my supply packages that was delivered. 
oh I won’t even talk to her after this at all. I will look the other way and ignore her. I’m not giving her any attention there. I’m livid right now. We pay a lot of money to live here and she will not control my home. When we use the toilet, clean or use a fan or vacuumed. This is not her home.

@chelly That woman has a problem and it's not you, not smells or whatever else she's complaining about. I work with people, lot's of them. And some people carry some loose marbless. There's very little you can do about it, but keep a log of everything she does that is, or borders on harrassment. 

People like her can never be satisfied or appeased. She needs a good shrink and good medication (sorry for 'diagnosing, but I've seen this type of thing way too often).

@cat-momma there is far more that has been going on since my post.

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@cat-momma there is far more that has been going on since my post.

Oh dear, that sounds ominous. Hope you're not hurt or harrassed, and doing well. 

@cat-momma I’m ok I ultimately left the place. There were issues with me and my spouse  as well. I’ve gotten help from an organization. It’s rough and a process of getting back in my feet but yea I was defiantly harassed. I was even afraid to empty my bag in my own home. Whenever I flushed she would scream up there and freak out. It was not me. I think there were sewer problems there cuz I have no issues with anyone where I’m currently staying. I’d still like to know how she found out I have an Ostomy.
this ordeal has given me low confidence about smelling with  my Ostomy. I never had an issue with it before as I use the odor drops and friends always told me I didn’t  smell when I ask. This women has taken that from me. Now I’m always thinking I smell. This is something I am going to mention to my therapist when I talk with her because it really bothers me. Oh well, she got what she wanted and I’m not there. I’m sure the place still smells. Whatever it was she was smelling. 

I am so sorry to hear this @Chelly , no one deserves having their confidence taken away like this. It's nothing you did and there is, unfortunately, nothing you could have done to prevent this woman from doing what she did, I am sure of this.

At the same time, I'm glad that you've gotten yourself out of this situation and you have help to deal with the aftermath. I wish for you to be able to live your life again without worrying about other people, what they might smell or hear or see of you. 

I hope you and your spouse will be able to work things out, if that's what you want. If I could, I'd give you a big hug!!

@cat-momma being away from there for 2-3 weeks and I’m getting my confidence back. It was horrible because I was getting anxiety everytime I had to empty. I almost one day wanted to go up to the store to do it. I felt like a prisoner in my own home. I guess I’ve heard it still smells there even though I’m gone. I guess she found out it wasn’t my bag after all. 
it was a traumatic experience to say the least. at peace right now. I just need to get my bird back. thanks for your support and know that this is not a common thing to happen when having an Ostomy. I’ve had it since 2017 and never had anyone complain.